The $12 kit
For parents giving a first phone this Christmas

Set up the phone and the house rules before it's unwrapped.

Make a family phone agreement that fits your child's age. It takes about two minutes, it's free, and it prints on one page so it can go right in the box.

Nothing you type leaves this page. No sign-up, no email.

Your family phone agreement

Pick your child's age and a few house rules. The agreement fills in as you go. You can tap any line to change the wording before you print.

Their phone
Include rules about
Phone-free times (bedroom at night is always included)
Tip: tap any line on the agreement to reword it. Changing the options rebuilds it. Your work is saved on this device only.

Three steps before Christmas morning

Rules on paper work best when the phone backs them up and the hand-over has a plan.

1

Agree on the rules

Make the agreement above. It's free. Print it and put it in the box with the phone.

2

Make the phone keep them

Set up iPhone Screen Time or Google Family Link so bedtime, app approvals, and filters happen on their own. About an hour, once.

3

Hand it over with a plan

Know what to say on the morning, the first week, and the first time a rule gets broken. Then loosen things up as they're ready.

First Phone Kit

The agreement sets the rules. The kit sets up the phone to keep them, and gives you the words for the hard talks.

  • Step-by-step iPhone Screen Time setup: Downtime, App Limits, Ask to Buy, Communication Limits, content filters, and the passcode mistake most parents make.
  • Step-by-step Google Family Link setup for Android, including the second web browser and app store many phones come with.
  • Rule sets for ages 8–10, 11–12, 13–14 and 15–17, with the exact setting that backs up each rule.
  • Scripts for 12 hard conversations: "everyone else has TikTok," "someone asked me for a photo," the first broken rule, and more.
  • A Christmas countdown: what to do this weekend, the week before, Christmas Eve, and the morning itself.
  • The first 30 days: weekly check-ins, a 30-day review, and how to give more freedom without losing track.
  • Workarounds and fixes: the common kid workarounds and how to close each one.
  • Two checklists for any spreadsheet app: every setting by age, and a quick decision for the 18 apps kids ask for most.
$12 one time
Get the kit

Instant download after checkout.

Uses the free controls already built into the phone. No app to buy, no subscription.

Plain English, written for parents, not IT people.

If Christmas is the day

A calm schedule for a December 25 hand-over. The kit has the full checklist for each step.

Questions parents ask

What ages does this work for?

8 to 17. The rules change with age: younger kids get more of the decisions made for them, and teens get more say. For a child younger than 8, use the 8–10 rules and tighten anything that feels too loose.

Do I really need to set the phone up before I give it?

You don't have to, but it helps. Setting it up ahead means Christmas morning isn't two hours of updates and passwords, and the rules are on from the first minute. Most kids care about the phone, not whether the plastic was opened. The kit also covers doing it together on the day if the unboxing matters to your child.

Will my kid push back?

Probably, and that's normal. Kids accept rules they helped make much more easily, so the agreement is written to be read together, with promises from the grown-ups too. The kit has word-for-word scripts for the moments that usually turn into arguments.

Is this a parental control app?

No. The kit uses the free controls Apple and Google already build into the phone (Screen Time and Family Link). Nothing extra to install on your child's phone, nothing monthly to pay.

We're an Android family, or a mixed one. Does it still work?

Yes. The kit has a full Google Family Link setup for Android and explains which combinations work best. For example, you can manage an Android phone from an iPhone, but an iPhone's Screen Time is managed from an Apple device.

Where does what I type go?

Nowhere. The agreement is built in your browser and saved only on this device so you can come back to it. There's no account and no record of what you write.